How trying for a baby can adversely affect your sexual relationship.
Despite being told I was probably infertile at the age of 17, I successfully had two beautiful daughters with only 17 months difference in their age, with no pregnancy complications. My daughters were healthy, so I never imagined that getting pregnant a third time would be difficult. However, after months of unprotected sex, I still wasn't pregnant.
We tried everything, abstaining to 'save up' sperm and then having a night of passion (which doesn't work at all so don't try it), we tried sleeping together every day, we tried healthy food, vitamins and detox tea. Still nothing. I couldn't understand it. Eventually we decided to try the ovulation method so I bought some ovulation tests. After a couple of weeks of testing, the second blue line appeared. I was ovulating! Tonight was the night! I told my husband. Nothing happened that night, for as soon as we got into bed, he got so nervous he couldn't do anything. He was simply switched off. When I asked why, he said sex wasn't romantic anymore, that it was just about trying for a baby, and that he couldn't perform on demand. We spent the evening watching TV and I didn't get pregnant that month either.
It didn't just happen once, but repeatedly for months. I wondered if I would actually get to sleep with my husband again or if he still found me attractive. We decided to stop thinking about babies and just have sex for fun, and the moment we stopped trying, I got pregnant. It was the same for my friend, who tried for 3 years and then had a daughter when she thought she couldn't. So relax, you never know what might happen when you aren't thinking about it.
